“There’s no place like home …” Sounds good, right? But is it always true?
Whether your home life is an obvious hindrance or an American Dream, it’s important to ask, “Will going home bring me closer to sobriety?”
What was your home like before?
One of the best indicators for the future is the past. Often, we learn from experience. What is your home’s story? If you’re unsure of whether going home is a healthy decision, tell the story—write it down. Odds are, you’ll be able to see the pros and cons quickly if you remain honest.
Your sobriety is worth the time to stop and think, regardless of how much time that is.
Signs of a hostile home environment
Some of your home-life stories may go something like this:
Once upon a time, there was a little white house in a quiet neighborhood. A large oak tree hid half of the large front porch, where a teal door peaked under a large branch that was often used for a tire swing. Inside, a mother, father, and their young child sat eating the usual meat and potatoes. But they noticed an empty seat at the table, yet again. No sign from John today.
A brief sigh followed, and then life continued. They filled their bellies, exchanged yawns, and moseyed to bed. The doorbell rang. Another sigh, followed by a grimace. The father went down the hall to answer the door—John, wreaking of alcohol and barely able to stand. Speechless, the father ushered him to his room for the night.
Morning came, but no breakfast waited on the table when John woke. The only thing at the table was his father, with his hands folded where a plate should lay. He simply said,
“Last time was the last time. If you come back like that again, I’m not opening the door. I promise you.”
This wasn’t the first time for the conversation, but it was the sternest one. With no response necessary, John left with nothing but a slamming door behind him. The home had become hostile and tension-filled, and that’s where it seemed to stay, regardless of how John walked in.
When should you consider sober living?
“Hostile and tension-filled”, is that an environment to get well?
The above is just one example where going home may not be the best place to recover. There are thousands of stories that vary from this one, but each share a common plot: home may not be the best place to be right now.
Honestly answer a few questions to discern if the same is true for you:
- Is home a safe environment?
- What triggers surround my home? Am I able to face all of these during early recovery?
- Will peers who no longer have my best interest in mind visit?
- Are there too many memories and habits to face during early recovery?
What you’ll find in a sober living home
If home will inhibit your sobriety, you may want to consider sober living. In a sober living environment, you’ll find a home conducive to recovery:
- Peers as roommates who are going through some of the same struggles you are
- Peers who will hold you accountable and will be supportive
- A new sense of community that doesn’t revolve around old habits
- A home where temptations are lessened, and focus can be placed completely on recovery
- Regained hope in writing your next chapter
Sit back and evaluate whether going home is right for your next chapter, or whether sober living can provide a sense of home that’ll support you building a foundation of success.
Stories are meant to be told and we want to hear your story. No matter where you are in your story, a new ending can be written—starting today. Actions today change trajectories for tomorrow.Learn More About Sober Living